Thursday, October 28, 2010

fish in the fish tank

So I had my post all planned out about our outing
getting our 38 cent fish.
How we made homemade fish sticks, and how we made a fish mobile with scrap paper, orange thread and our chandelier, and how we got a huge box of fishy crackers.
Then I read THIS post by one of my best friends.
And then I walked by the fish tank.
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And knew I needed to write about something other than recipes.

To this same best friend a few months after she told me she was expecting her second baby, I mailed her a random card saying some advice I have given a few friends when they are moms (not saying I am a pro) It went something like this:

"No where is it written that you have to shower daily.
Its ok to cry.
Its ok for the house to be a mess.
And its ok to swear occasionally."

Cause the truth is, sometimes, I look at the mess, the chorus of crying kids, the bags under my eyes and wish for something different.

I'll catch my mind wondering in hypotheticals, like the adorable/funky/professional ensembles I would wear to my hypothetical rad job, about the traveling I would do, about my un-saggy boobs, un-stretched out skin, and narrower hips, about sleeping in, about money spent on myself.

I dont think I'm alone in this.
And I don't think I'm alone in knowing that motherhood is amazing. Its the best thing I've ever done.
I know I'm not alone in saying I wouldn't trade it for the world.
I wouldn't recommend it to everyone, only those willing to be stretched beyond what they thought was possible and have their heart grow exponentially.

I guess really, what I really am trying to say is:
if you are out there, having a hard time,
maybe a really hard time? Know that you are not alone.
We've been there/are there/will be there.

7 comments:

kaitlyn said...

thank you. so true. so real. i know i have been there and go back there at random intervals. however, i know that i could not do anything more amazing with my fabulous brain and awesome talents than raise my girls to be fabulous and awesome themselves. we ARE making the world a better place. we are also the whole world to our girls.

Janice said...

I hope your fish survive thier cracker friends.:)

A little Birdie... said...

Not gonna lie, I totally laughed at that picture! Probably because it didn't happen to me...

Brittany said...

Totally cried today, not because of Owen but all the extra things we take on in this life. I am activities Chairman and I think I am more stressed about it then my sisters wedding.

Owen does put me through the ringer and it always makes me sad that he has more clothes then I do. Motherhood is hard. FOR SURE!

Vashti said...

You really hit the nail on the head with your blog posts. Thank you for always keeping it real. I always love the candor with which you write about your life!

Nichole said...

thank you.

Megan Marie said...

:)